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The latest research says we need 66 days on average to form a habit. Some require less and some more. It used to be said that all we needed was 21 days. So I though I'd try for 21 days and see if it works for me as long as I am able to maintain them after the 21 days while starting a new habit. I have 21 habits I want to pass on to my kids - 11 of them are daily habits and 10 of them are weekly habits. If I work on 1 weekly and 1 daily habit for 21 days and move on to the next one (while still maintaining the others) - I and my family could have acquired all 21 habits in 7 months. I don't know if it's realistic, I may have to slow down and stay with some for longer before adding new ones, but I'd like to try it.
Does anyone else want to do this with me? I could start a Facebook group for those of you who don't Ike to try this so we could inspire one another in our efforts. Following are the habits I want to acquire or improve in the next 7 months by working on 2 habits for 3 weeks (one weekly and one daily) and then moving on to the next 2 habits (while keeping the previous ones) for the next 3 weeks. I already do many of these, but I have ways I could improve in each one if they became the focus of the 3 weeks.
At the beginning of the 3 weeks, I can send out what I have learned as I have tried to acquire each habit, age appropriate modifications for those who are inviting their families, and ways to improve that particular habit if it is already something you do. What I ask in return is your feedback on what has worked for you and what hasn't - how you've managed, how you deal with distractions, your ideas about what works for you in trying to acquire each habit and any quotes or scriptures that have helped you.
Any takers? Support is always nice when doing hard things like building new habits.
Here are the habits I'd like to improve in the next 7 months:
Habit 1 and 2:
Weekly: Reflection [personal revelation]
Daily: Priority List [heeding personal revelation, practicing repentance, gaining faith, hope, and charity]
Habit 3 and 4
Weekly: Worship (temple or meditation) [humility, perspective, covenants, individualized spiritual learning line upon line, communion]
Daily: Personal Devotional (journal, scriptures, prayer) [hearing, personal revelation, self-awareness, finding personal commandments]
Habit 5 and 6
Weekly: Date(if married)
Daily: Gratitude notes (nightly to spouse, to God, or to others)
Daily: Daily Exercise (tuning the instrument of our spirit)
Habits 8 and 9:
Weekly: Evening Family Activity and Lesson with discussion of principles learned that week (learning to share, teach, listen, and family unity)
Daily: 4 Basic Skills (Obedience, disagreeing appropriately, family structure, roles and boundaries)
Habits 10 and 11
Weekly: Family Council (government principles)
Daily: Family Devotional (teaching each other from our personal study, discussion of principles and appreciating the arts)
Habits 12 and 13
Weekly: Decluttering and Simplifying (taking care of personal stewardship, consecration, gratitude, mental freedom)
Daily: Family Work (responsibility, family service, contributing, work ethic)
Habits 14 and 15
Weekly: Healthy Menu/Snack Planning/ Shopping (caring for our personal temples)
Daily: Meals Preparation
Habits 16 and 17
Weekly: Nature Time (God's lesson book, coming alive, quiet reflection, appreciating beauty)
Daily: Reading from a classic book as a family and individually (imagination, vicarious lessons, family unity and adventures, opening perspective)
Habits 18 and 19
Weekly: Family History Stories or Research (family unity, roots, connections, service)
Daily: Math or Logic Puzzle (reasoning skills, Logic, thinking, feed mind)
Habits 20 and 21
Weekly: Service for the community (monthly book discussion, quilting, crocheting, food drive, production, etc) [increasing circle of influence, charity, compassion]
Daily: Understanding People: Cultural or History Lesson (compassion, gratitude, perspective)
Pictures from the last couple of week:
Chinese New Year Celebration:
He spent morning at choir and theater, came home for pizza and some Smash Brothers, went to a dance with some friends and then watched "Fantastic Beasts." It was a full day. I sure love that kid!
Contemporary art Museum:
We had a some interesting discussions after watching the Banishment of Beauty on YouTube and then going to a contemporary art museum. I really recommend the video. It certainly makes you think. But there is some nude art in it, just fyi.
And here's some pictures of our house in progress: